March is a time when I am reminded of changes. During this month we experience some dramatic changes in the weather from winter to spring and even a time change on the clock. Life often brings about change. In fact very few things in life remain constant. We are always growing, learning and adapting as we face new twists and turns in life whether it is changes in relationships or changes in job or changes in our kids lives.
How do you handle change? Do you welcome it and embrace it, or do you buck against it and resist it. Not all change is good, and yet some changes can be delightful. We may not be able to control the changes that take place in our life, but we can control our response to them. I want to give you three points to ponder when it comes to the changes you face in life.
1. Remain flexible. Recently I read an article which studied the qualities of happy people. It stated that happy people are creative people because they can always think of new and positive ways to adjust when change happens. Be consistent, but don’t be so immovable and stuck in your ways that you get angry every time plans change.
2. Enjoy the Detours. Once you realize you are not on the road you had always planned to travel, it is important to choose to enjoy the detour. Plan B may be even better or more beautiful than the original plan. Look for the good, decide to enjoy the change and find fun in every turn.
3. Find your refuge in God. The Bible reminds us continually that God is our refuge and our strength. He is our strong tower. He is our Good Shepherd. We can turn to Him for guidance, wisdom and strength in the midst of the difficulties.
I’m reminded in James 1 that God does not change like shifting shadows. He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Although the changes in life may be shocking to you, they are no surprise to God. He is close beside you and will navigate the road ahead. Pour out your heart to Him for God is our refuge.
Positive Mom Moment: The best way to teach your children to be flexible is through teachable moments and your own example. When plans change talk to your kids about the fact that is it disappointing (don’t’ ignore the reality that there may be sadness in changed plans), but God is in control and let’s ask Him to direct us as we do something different. Pray together for God’s leading through the changes you face. Most importantly show your kids how to positively adapt to change by having a positive attitude yourself. Don’t complain, but rather look expectantly at what God will do.